A 2015 survey by Men’s Health magazine backs up this statement. Conductors of the survey found out that going to the pub was named the best way to “get over” a split according to while one third of those polled said the jilted party would be better off if he acts unbothered by the whole thing.
Right there, is one of the reasons why men suffer – the unwillingness to face what happened and come to terms with the reality of it.
The end of a relationship is never fair to anyone. Men hurt, women hurt when the familiar feeling of happiness is suddenly snatched from them due to a breakup. Even when the breakup is expected, the grieving process often still plays out.
On the other hand, women are typically more comfortable finding a shoulder to cry on and letting it all out.
“Women are often less dependent on their significant other for emotional support – they typically have a wider circle of friends and will confide to family in a way most men wouldn’t countenance.” Hanlon says.
That kinda explains why they come to grips with reality and find the real strength to genuinely close a chapter a move on to the next quicker.
Another reason why women don’t suffer as much as men after a breakup is because they do the breaking up more times than men.
“Studies show that more women than men are the initiators of marriage break up today,” Hanlon adds.
What this means is that, women have more time to start processing the pain ahead. They begin to prepare early for the outcomes of splitting up from a partner. By the time they are done with that phase, the man may just be beginning his.
For men, therefore, it is important to begin to deal with breakups in more expressive, healthier ways as opposed to the ‘suck-it-all-up’ technique that is being used from way back.