Depressing, isn’t it?
Struggling to get out of bed every day—but you can’t.
All you need to do is turn off your alarm, get up, and go on with the day. Instead, you hide under your covers, avoiding life. You’ve lost jobs, friends, and a whole more—but still, you can’t make yourself do it.
All you want to be is normal. To live without the huge emotions and downward spirals.
I once felt this way, too. Diagnosed with severe depression and borderline personality disorder when I was young, getting out of bed was brutal.
Part of what makes depression so, well, depressing, is the crushing weight of pessimism holding your head under water. Pessimism makes it easy to believe that nothing will work out, and everything is pointless.
What a terrible way to live life.
On the flip side, an optimistic life is about believing in the best, through the worst.
Let’s talk about seven useful ways to live life positively:
1. Ditch the following phrases:
“It figures,” “Isn’t that just my luck,” “It would only happen to me,” and, “I just can’t catch a break.” Words that make you a victim also make you a pessimist. Stop using them.
2. Flip the switch on negativity.
The violent television shows and the funny-but-mean viral videos. Negativity is an insidious disease, and it spreads through seemingly harmless mediums. Turn it off.
3. Refuse to be misery’s companion.
Gently, but firmly, tell your partner/mother/best friend/colleague that you can’t participate in their pity party. Empathy and compassion are important, but learn how to deal with difficult people.
Living bitter-free is a skill. Learn to acknowledge and explore feelings of negativity, but don’t dwell on them. Turn them around, taste them, and set them free.
4. Turn disappointment on its head.
When you’ve had a disappointment or failure, go ahead and finish something (anything). Complete a task that’s been on your to-do list.
When I experience a work disappointment, the first thing I do is complete another project. It forces your head and heart to change gears, and it will point you in a more positive, mindful direction.
5. Thank your lucky stars.
When you start to get stressed and depressed, stop and say “thank you.” To anything. Thank your house, for providing warmth and four walls. Thank your car, for continuing to start (most mornings, anyway). Thank your job, even if you hate it, because it keeps you clothed and fed.
Don’t give up on achieving more, but get in the habit of acknowledging life’s little achievements. You’re luckier than you think.
6. Make someone smile.
Buy a coffee for the person next in line, hold the door with a smile, compliment a fellow shopper on their outfit, or buy a balloon and ask the cashier to deliver it anonymously to the next kid who gets in line.
Pay it forward. (Careful, it’s addicting!)
Living An Optimistic Life Takes Effort
Slip-ups are common. Complaining is just so much easier than working to be happy.
Your history plays a huge role in how you view life. Think about your parents. Did life beat them down? Did they warn you to look out for yourself because no one else will?
Your parents were trying, in their own way, to teach you about optimism and pessimism.
But, you can’t just accept life; you have to intentionally live it.
Fight For The Good Life, Every Day
When you juggle work, home, and life, just maintaining the status quo becomes a feat of endurance. It’s often an accomplishment to get through the day. There’s no time left to work on you. But that’s just an excuse.
You have to make time to for good. Find it in every person, in every situation.
You have to fight for the light at the end of the tunnel.
If I weren’t a fighter, I wouldn’t be here today.
At the end of the day, it’s about believing in the power of good, not bad. It’s about turning off the negativity, whether it flows from your mind, your partner, or your TV.