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sexless marriage can bring serious turbulence in marriages

These are 5 things that could happen if you are in a sexless marriage

However, conditions that lead to a sexless marriage are not always black and white. A couple can be happy and be in a sexless marriage, wondering what happened to their once blossoming sex life. And sexless marriage isn’t as rare as you may think. According to one study, 15 per cent of married couples are in a sexless marriage. A marriage is said to be sexless if a couple have not had sex for 6 to 12 months.

Below are ways in which a sexless marriage can affect you.

Sexless marriage concerns
  • Reduces emotional intimacy

Intimacy is important for a couple in marriage. It is about being close to your partner on an emotional level. Intimacy allows one to be vulnerable and open to their partner. It fosters comfortability, allowing each person in the union to do things like walking naked before the other person. And sex hugely contributes to this, hence the reduction of intimacy.

  • More temptation 

Sex is a physical activity that brings pleasure and promotes bonding between a couple. The body is programmed to want sex, if not for the bonding, then for the pleasure. So when your physical needs are not being met you are bound to be starved and lonely. And that starvation and loneliness may lead to impulsive behaviour, bringing your fidelity into

question.

Reduces trust

There is a hormone known as the “Love hormone.” Scientists call it oxytocin. This hormone is secreted when one reaches orgasm, the height of sexual pleasure. Oxytocin increases the feeling of trust between partners. In a sexless marriage where there is no sex or intimacy, oxytocin is absent. Therefore, trust is lacking, which will make you begin to question your partner’s loyalty. Why aren’t they having sex with you? Are they getting it somewhere else?

  • Low self-esteem

Apart from the pleasure that comes with sex, what it does for a couple is that it confirms to each of them that their partner wants them. Therefore, this translates into a feeling of attractiveness and being wanted. But in a sexless marriage where sex is nonexistent, it will make you start to feel like you’re the problem. That you’re not attractive enough.

  • Resentment 

To many people, sex is only a physical activity, but it goes beyond that. It is a time when two souls bond and achieve the feel-good factor. And so it makes sense that when that good feeling is no longer there, resentment and irritability might take its place.

Conclusion

There is never shame in getting help. Talk to your partner. Communicate. If you both want to work things out and rekindle that passion for sex, find a counsellor with years of experience in marriage counselling.

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5 comments

  1. Why will a marriage be without sex. It can be so fustrating

  2. A the points listed here are 100% true. A marriage will be so boring without sex.

  3. Hehehe… This one no fit happen oo… I will be cooking for you, washing for you, doing other stuffs. Then just 30mins pleasure you can’t give me, me and that your prick go fight combat that night.

  4. I can’t be married and be starved of sex. It’s madness na.

  5. Lol… The funny thing is that, most people enjoy sex in their tennage relationships more than their marriages. And this is very bad. It ought to be the other way round. Your wife is your soulmate and should be treated like an angel. Share with her everything. Starvation in your marriage really bad. Couples should avoid such. And amend issues, don’t leave them pending.

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