Define Friendship and tell me about your friend and how much risk he/she can take for you
Proverbs 13:20 He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm
You can tell a lot about a person by the company they keep. I have seen the damage done time and time again by people who once went to church, and still hanged out with their old friends only to find themselves pulled back into the world. Especially when you become a new believer, you can not hang out with the old friends like you used to and think you will not be affected.
Before I became a Christian, I loved hanging out with my friends. We didnt go out robbing people or get drunk but we used to go out at the weekends and go to parties and clubs and generally have a good laugh. But when I became a Christian, my allegiance changed (which was quite hard admittedly) but I knew I had to be around like minded people who loved God and loved his word. I had to throw out all of my old records because at that time, I could not handle it because of the affect it had on me. Looking back now, this was definitely God changing me
Now I am not saying that you should never mingle with non christians or old friends but when they begin to have a negative affect on your spiritual life, then maybe its time to loosen the reins.
This is also so true with ministers of the gospel that hang around together. Of course there are exceptions and but generally you can have a good idea the where a pastor or minister stands theologically by the people that they have to speak at their meetings and conferences and the ministers that they ‘hang around’ with.
The best analogy I can give is if you are a sheep, you feel uncomfortable being in a pig pen and vice versa. If you are comfortable in a pig pen, then it is probably because you are a pig.
“Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.” That’s not just some cool quote or a random idea from Google. It’s a Biblical concept.
In Proverbs 13:20, Solomon, the wise-guy, wrote: “He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.”
It’s just like your mother always told you – Be careful who you hang around; Be careful who you associate with; Guard who pours into your life. Don’t let just anyone come in and start placing things or speaking things into your life. Guard your heart. Guard your mind. Guard your soul.
Why? Because evil communications corrupt good manners. They corrupt good actions. They corrupt the right mindset. They change the way we interact with those around us.
An old Jewish proverb says: “A friend is one who warns you.” Fools don’t do that. They’re caught up in themselves, but a true friend is caught up in YOU. Again, a true friend is one who warns you. Friendship is on the decline.
We are more connected and yet more isolated than at any other time in history. We’ve traded:
- Trust for “Tweets”
- Smiles for “Statuses”
- Love for “Likes”
- Conversations for “Comments.”
“A friend loveth at all times.” You can have 1,000 people on your newsfeed and have none of them be a true friend. Why? Because “a friend loveth at all times.”
Maybe you need to make some additions or maybe, just maybe, you need to make some subtractions. Sometimes UNFRIENDING is just as important as FRIENDING.
Again, show me your friends and I’ll show you your future. And if there’s One Friend who could ever affect your future, it’s Jesus.